A bit of my story
hi friend ♡
There’s one big thing you’re about to learn about me: I don’t really do small talk. We’re diving in deep! There is nothing more connecting than the genuine love and acceptance that comes with an open heart ajd
I’m an oversharer at my core, and you’re about to get quite a bit of it! Buckle in, babe, we’re diving in!
My own struggles with mental and reproductive health guided me towards a path of nurturing feminine beings with similar experiences- disconnected from the body and self, craving the love, acceptance, confidence, and peace that comes with a deeply intricate relationship between the body and mind.
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The growth-inducing details
Once upon a time, I started hemorrhaging.
Massive internal bleeding from a ruptured ectopic pregnancy after weeks of severe discomfort and heavy period-like bleeding. Rather than nestling into my uterus, this little clump of human-forming-cells decided to stop for stay in my fallopian tube, inevitably outgrowing its improperly chosen home and blowing itself, and the tube, right out of existence as the 9 cm abscess it left behind emptied my vascular system.
It’s the fucking trauma, guys.
After emergency surgery and physical recovery, the whole experience was really rough on me mentally… and by rough, I mean an inexplicably, devastatingly, growth-inducing kind of pain. I couldn’t trust my body to do the one thing it’s meant to do above all else, keep me safe, or the second thing, develop and push out fun-sized humans. I also learned I couldn’t trust myself to hear my body when something was wrong and interpret that message as a wailing cry for help. I spent many of the following months grieving the loss of Terminator, the most appropriate name I could devise for my self terminating baby-to-never-be. I was going fucking crazy by tracking every phase and minor change of my menstrual cycle, aching to get pregnant again but not really knowing why, then having earth-shattering breakdowns with each negative pregnancy test.
I was desperate to help people who experienced reproductive trauma. Late each night, I researched egg donation, voluntary trauma support, surrogacy– all the things. Then one day I woke up and said “I’m going to nursing school to work in women’s health.” Five days later, I took my entrance exam- the last one available to apply for the upcoming semester.
So there I was, little sad Michaela, standing up for the ever-dreadful class icebreaker, saying, “I want to be a nurse because I almost died from an ectopic pregnancy a few months ago and want to help other women who have had similar situations,” then rambling about it for three more minutes as the room went dark from the pressure of standing in front of 70 peers, spilling my guts with little prompting. In contract, my soon-to-be best nursing school buddy said, “I’m Taylor, and I’m a dog walker.” She wasn’t a dog walker. I guess going way too deep into the feels has always been my specialty.
Months and months of break downs through make-it or break-it exams on mornings I started my period became more and more excruciating, until I gave up, knowing if I did manage to get pregnant that month, I’d miss finals the next semester for labor and inevitably fail nursing school, ruining my chances of making my misery into something beautiful.
And then I was pregnant.
And then I had the baby.
And then I was suicidal.
Fuck. What a rough time. I almost forgot how bad it was in a lot of ways.
I write to remember.
I write to heal that piece of myself.
Postpartum depression, hit me like a tidal wave, and I was drowning. School, work, babies, family– it was all so much. With poor relationships with people who didn’t appreciate my light, I started to let it fade out entirely, thinking I must be the problem.
Nope.
With lots of healing, both with myself, my loved ones, and bombass health professionals, I began to discover my own power, finally recognizing all of the beauty I bring to the world when I let go of the expectations that weren’t even mine to begin with- they all came from the world around me, and had no relation to the me I was or wanted to become. More specifically, they came from the ones who hoped to dim my light, too afraid of what pieces of their own shadows would be revealed if I let its wild nature take over. So what did I do next?
I burned them to the fucking ground.
I took those toxic expectations, really horrible relationships, and my own shitty boundaries that let them exist in my life to begin with and let the flame of my light burn them to the fucking ground, making space in the field of ashes for repressed pieces of my self to finally bloom and thrive in the wasteland of my past. I nurtured genuinely uplifting relationships. I started recognizing my own beauty and infinite magic. I stopped doing things out of obligation and softened into the prioritization of my pleasure.
As my self-connection grew, I noticed my ADHD symptoms subsided- not disappearing, but becoming manageable. I’ve since come to learn that I am most at peace with myself when leaning into my feminine energy: nurturing self-validation, creating genuine connection, flowing into my passions, and standing in my own power. Sensuality became a cornerstone of life for me, and I fell in love with the feeling of focusing on each moment as the unique experience it offered.
This one broken, self critical, sexually repressed, and emotionally distressed little me evolved into some sort of a goddess of love and power, prioritizing passion over obligation and personal peace over people pleasing. It’s wild to me, how much has changed, both internally and externally, since my darkest hour began, and I’m so fucking thankful to share the story and my experiences with other feminine beings in hopes that they find the same peace and power through their sensual self-connection.
But why intimate photography?
Towards the end of my pregnancy, while I was dealing with the rest of my shit, my husband started working out of town by necessity. Between traumatized-mom-in-nursing-school overwhelm and husband-works-out-of-town loneliness, I was in desperate need of an outlet, and his new job provided a new opportunity for me to lean into my creative side. He actually gifted me my first big girl camera, and I immediately fell in love. Two months later, I was shooting naked ladies in my spare room, but way less sketchy than it sounds. My passion for photography grew from capturing big feelings, and combining that with the women’s health and mental health aspects that the boudoir genre has the potential to bring to light created the most perfectly unexpected career imaginable. Three weeks into my role as a labor and delivery nurse, I traded my patient gowns for lingerie and IVs for sneak peeks. I aim to treat my community with the same nurturing, supportive, “you can do anything you wildly capable woman you” energy as I would a laboring mom, both learning to listen to their bodies and connect with themselves in very different yet powerful ways. I love bringing my worlds together and soaking in the harmony that softening into my passion has brought to the world.
I consider my style to be romantic film meets dark feminine power, almost like a nostalgia-inducing memoir of healing each broken piece of the feminine. It’s grainy, moody, beautiful, and emotive. I have this weirdly cool ability to meet my people where they are and relate that emotion to the version of myself that felt the same way, whatever that may be, and let that feeling guide the session. I’m 100% a flow with the feelings girlie in the most chaotically beautiful way, and I like for that to show in the images I create.
aww, you’re still reading!
How sweet that you’re still with me on this deep dive into my life!
Let’s see, what else can I tell you about me….
Want to know more?
Remember when I said I’m an oversharer? Haha, I meant it. I’m a strong believer that our trauma’s are directly related to our purpose, and by healing ourselves we open a path of healing for others. If you have any questions to ask, comments to add, or stories to tell, please feel free to send me an email at michaela@bymichaelakeller.com where my inbox is always open, though I don’t check it more than a few times each week to protect my own peace.
Talk soon! :)